PROPER WAY TO DEAL WITH NON-DEVOTEE HUSBAND
2.TOLERANT AND PATIENCE
3.ATTENTIVELY SERVING HUSBAND AND HIS FAMILY
4.SERIOUSNESS IN CHANTING AND READING
5.COOKING NICELY AND CLEANING HOME
6.SHOULD BE EXPERT IN MANAGING HOUSEHOLD ACTIVITIES
7.NEVER ARGUE OR FIGHT WITH HUSBAND
8.ALWAYS SPEAKING SOFTLY WITH SWEET WORDS.
If you say “no” “no” and go against Your non-devotee husband, he will try his best to go even more against. So Krishna conscious wife achieves her goals in a smart way. First she accepts him as what he is saying then later by her good service attitude makes him to accept her own vision in life and in that way fulfills her desires.
So first is to understand the false ego of a man – I am a master over You and You have to do what i order You to do.
When wife closes her eyes and being tolerant accepts him as a master and herself a subordinate for him she will win his heart and that means he will fulfill desires not his own but wives’ …
So it is an art.
Manu Samhita in this regard states: (MS 5.154) “Though destitute of virtue, or seeking pleasure elsewhere, or devoid of good qualities, a husband must be constantly worshipped as good as God by a faithful wife.” So Manu says even if the man has no good qualities, even if he is seeking pleasure with other women, still the wife should worship him as good as God. That is a law of dharma. The duty of a good wife.
Whenever your husband appreciates you for being a good wife, you always say that it’s only because of Srila Prabhupada that you are convinced that the only duty of a girl is to serve her husband and her family nicely. You give credit of all your good qualities to Srila Prabhupada and this gives you a chance to explain what a wonderful person Srila Prabhupada was, and how his teachings are the way to live a harmonious life.
tṛṇād api su-nīcena
taror iva sahiṣṇunā
kīrtanīyaḥ sadā hariḥ
One should chant the holy name of the Lord in a humble state of mind, thinking oneself lower than the straw in the street; one should be more tolerant than a tree, devoid of all sense of false prestige, and ready to offer all respect to others. In such a state of mind one can chant the holy name of the Lord constantly.
A learned man treats all women except his wife as his mother, looks on others’ property as garbage in the street, and treats others as he would treat his own self. These are the symptoms of a learned person as described by Cänakya Pandita. This should be the standard for education. Education does not mean having academic degrees only.
One should execute what he has learned in his personal life. These learned characteristics were verily manifest in the life of King Påthu. Although he was the king, he treated himself as a servant of the Lord’s devotees. According to Vedic etiquette, if a devotee came to a king’s palace, the king would immediately offer his own seat to him.